How do you have sex with a virgin without giving her pain?

I've been going out with my girlfriend and we feel that we're ready to have sex but I don't want it to hurt her. My question is, is it possible to pop a cherry without pain? Why exactly does it hurt? Is there any way to ease pain? And for how long does the pain last?|||'How do you have sex with a virgin without giving her pain?'





It's not always possible. It would depend on how she's built


inside for sexual intercourse. If her hymen's still intact (which


is a traditional sign of female virginity), when his erect penis


penetrates her vagina, it will encounter resistance inside her.


When his penis thrusts forcefully enough inside her vagina,


her hymen will be torn apart and the virgin will be 'deflowered'.


A girl's bleeding from her 'defloration' is traditionally associated


with losing her virginity (a major rite of passage for her) and


thus 'becoming a woman'. In some cultures, the existence of


a young woman's pain and bleeding during sexual intercourse


is accepted and even celebrated as proof that she was a virgin.





'Why exactly does it hurt?'





In order for his penis to penetrate deeply inside vagina, he


would have to thrust with enough force to open her hymen.


A virgin would feel pain (from the breaking of her hymen)


when his penis exerts such force inside her vagina.





'Is there any way to ease pain?'





The key is to reduce the friction when his penis penetrates


her vagina. In foreplay, he should stimulate her, both verbally


and physically, as much as possible so that she becomes


sexually aroused and her vagina becomes well-lubricated.


But if her hymen's resistant enough to his vaginal penetration,


she would feel some pain and likely have some bleeding.


During and after her first sexual intercourse, particularly if


she has experienced some pain and bleeding, he should


attempt to comfort and reassure her by telling her how much


he loves her and how much making love to her means to him.





It's not unusual for a young woman to seem uncomfortable


before she loses her virginity. If she seems uncomfortable,


a man should ask her if she would like to postpone having


sexual intercourse. Even if he's become very aroused by her,


he should not proceed with sexual intercourse if she begins to


resist his advances. He should not make her feel like she was


deprived of her virginity because she was just taken by force.


If he loves her, he should wait until she feels it's right for her.|||Everyone woman is built differently. And there isn't anything to 'pop,' really. The pain comes from the tearing of the hymen. The hymen is just the taut skin around the opening into the vaginal canal, and its formation can range anywhere from almost fully closed to almost nonexistent. Tampons and sports *might* have torn it some already, or they might not have. The main thing to remember is to be attentive to her body; use a lot of lubrication, so there's the least chance of tearing the hymen, and (at least at first) be sure to take your time. You could try and get her relaxed with your fingers before taking things any farther. As for how long the pain lasts, it varies from person to person; again, anywhere from days on end to none at all. As long as you don't rush her if her body is too tense, it should turn out all right for you both.





And be smart. Always use two kinds of protection. ;)|||Well, everyone is different. When my friend "popped her cherry" she had no pain at all. But when I lost my virginity, it hurt like hell and burned and bled for a while afterwards.


Is her hymen still intact? Breaking the hymen it usually the cause of most of the pain and blood, seeing as the term "popped your cherry" is referring to the blood. Sometimes the hymen can be broken before she even loses her virginity from exercise or even using a tampon.


Another cause of pain could be from the vagina stretching to fit the penis. A lot of times, the penis is just too big ant it has to strecth the vagina in order to fit. Maybe if she masturbates often it might, MIGHT make it a little less painful. Then again, it might not.


So, all I can say is that if it hurts, it hurts. And if it doesn't, it doesn't. The pain and bleeding usually go away in about a week, then she'll be fine. If it doesn't, then you have a problem. If she thinks having sex with you is worth the pain, then go for it. Just make sure to be safe!|||it may have been popped already, it is easily torn, especially horse back riding and other activities, if she wears tampons or has touched herself she may have lost it already. and to be honest not all women bleed after, some dont at all and some helpful hints, lube it up real good, enter slowly and don't go buck wild on her! let her relax. the pain will only last a few seconds to just a moment before it feels good so the pain doesnt last long and it isnt that bad.|||when i lost my virginity, the first time it hurt. but he couldnt get in all the way becuase i was so tight, and it hurt so bad, he refused to push any further. the next day we tried again, it went in easier, hurt much less, and thats when i bled, from 'popping my cherry' . there really is no way to prevent it from hurting. even with lube.


just dont force it.


wait, maybe til the next day, and then try again. it will be much less painful.





my friends boyfriend refused to stop her first time, and she was crying it hurt so bad. his reasoning was that it would always hurt until she got it over with.


what a jerk. please do not do that to your girlfriend.|||Physically-it may hurt a little (yes, only a little) and there is not much you can do about that.





What you need to do is continue to ask her if she is okay and if she is sure. She might be scared and that will give you major bonus points if you are concerned about how she feels...|||umm...maybe you can use lots of lube?





When you enter her, her hymen will tear (if it hasn't through sports etc. already), which may cause some bleeding, it's probably just more discomfort rather than pain which is not a big deal and will get better over time. I think you shouldn't over think this one, it's only sex.|||The pain is caused by a penis entering the vagina. Obviously an erect penis is larger than a tampon. Leave you to the rest of it...|||Not all girls experience pain their first time. It can hurt because it's their first time obviously or that the guy is too big or she's not lubed enough... The pain shouldn't last too long. To try and help it not hurt make sure she's relaxed and is 'excited' ;)|||The popping the cherry doesn't hurt that much its just a pinch feeling the pain is the stretching of the vagina.It is gonna hurt so just take it slow.|||If you love her and she loves you she wont mind the pain one bit because she will want nothing more than to be that close to you.





So be ready, use protection, and good luck :)|||If she uses tampons, it's more then likely that her cherry has already popped. But it will still hurt... make it really good, she'll forget about any pain.|||It will have some pain involved just take your time with with her and ease in to it don't rush|||who the hell says


pop a cherry?


WTF


just say


have sex with her or losing her virginity


dork





Edit: tampons dont break it! its a myth and everybody knows that!